It is just purely my opinion based
on my personal experiences.
I shall classify it into three stages:
FEELING, ABILITY and DECISION.
The stages are very important to be reached.
Thus, if a relationship has fulfilled these
stages then that is the time that Love is
actualized. Love has reached its full potential.
All of the stages has no time frame at all.
I do believe that Love has it's own time and space.
That it decides when it comes and it also the one
who determines if it is time to leave.
The three can also occur all at the same time.
FEELING
Commonly known as the "Courting stage".
It begins with attraction, it also begin with
seduction. Either which of the two is a good start.
Knowing the person's past is the important key.
Atleast you may have the idea on what he/she
feels in entering into another journey of Love.
ABILITY
Also known as the "Proving stage."
Because you already know something about
the persons past. The task at hand is great,
to learn the mistakes of the past and to prove
that history doesn't repeat it self. You will do
everthing with the help of your abilities and
the Mighty One. Praying and hoping that
this will last forever.
DECISION
I call it the "Commitment Stage." You choose
to be with this person for the rest of your life.
The question is, is he/she ready for it? If not,
then you are in deep shit. Some manage to say
the creed, to say the promise. Pretend for a
few months even for years. Then in just one
blink or one hush. Boom the Love is gone.
Then you will start singing the song,
"Where is the Love?" by Black eyed peas.
Really deep shit...Pretensions are not accepted,
conventional reasons such as, "at I tried." Tried what?
To hurt you? Hahaha..very funny...very funny...
Do not decide if you can't handle it. If actions hurts,
then words really do as well.
In this world of ours, all has the capability to give,
but not all has the capability to feel,
ability and to decide on Love.
One can Give without loving, but one
can not Love without giving.
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the way you write it. it felt like your angry, hurt and disbelief of what happen to you...
ReplyDeletejust let it go... when it comes back its yours to hold on too...
as i said before your young live the life!!!
i believe that all has the capability to feel, ability and decide but most of them are lock and hidden in there own waiting to be uncovered by its own time and place....
wow...i've never looked at it that way... especially when you've included seduction ... most relationships doesn't work when seduction has played a part, especially if the woman is the seducer...like you, i would also like to share how decision plays a big role in a relationship...most people enjoyed having someone around...either as a plain company or someone who would get you through a rough night,then when things gets a little all too complicated...they could not afford to step up to your last stage. They couldn't decide...and if you further inquire as to the reasons behind... you'll get a 'i really don't know' answer...or a 'you're special to me but ...' and so we hope...we tell ourselves even if it degrades us to being the second next best thing he/she wants...beeing with that person is the happiest moment of your life...
ReplyDeletebut wouldn't it be nice to know your worth from the very beginning? just so when somebody told u they don't need you...you can chin up and say 'of course..im too much for you to afford'...
Love could sometimes be exponential. Slowly picking up its phase until it reaches its peak. But just does the saying goes when you're at the peak there's no way but to go down. Love, in some cases is pretty much the same. It suddenly drops to zero.
ReplyDeleteLove could also be like the trigonometric sine. It goes up quickly then normalizes for a while at its peak then begin its downfall upto the negative and stays there for some time. Yet it would rise again.
Love could be compared to a lot of things. Mathematical equations in this case yet there is no formula to fully solve its secrets. Sometimes its becoming a cycle, up down up down and its tiring. But it has a unique ability to keep us going no matter how painful situations have become.
At the end love does wonders for us. Love is not blind, rather Love is sacrificing. It gives us the strength and courage to sacrifice for someone. It doesn't matter how painful it could get us, our love could take it all away. Happiness may have its reasons for eluding us nonetheless joy would set in at times we expect it the least.
nah.... bitter k lang pare! u should learn to accept the things that you cannot change. ganyan ang buhay pare e, gets mo? alam mo pag nabasa ng mga magulang mo ang blog na to pagttwanan k lang for sure. to be honest iv been reading all your blogs. mostly are ok, well composed and also mostly pure of bitterness and hatred. ganyan ang buhay pare e. tandaan mo, ang mga bagay ay hindi ma-aayos sa dramahan, pa-bruskuhan, sigawan o kung ano pa. communication, good communication lang. i bet un din ang ssbhin ng mga magulang mo. kaya u cant blame to hear them say.. "ok lang yan anak, dami p nmng babae dyan e!" totoo naman e. ang logical point nun is, nde nttpos and buhay mo sa hatred na naramdaman mo. ganyan tlga e. shit happens. so now, what you need to do, is move on, live life, (once lang tyo mabubuhay e) and be happy! huwag mong problmahin ang mga bagay na hindi dpat pinoproblema. suggestion, u should treat this blog as a point view of life, not bitterness of life. because sabi nga nila, life is beuatiful. piece of advice. talk to your parents. alam nyo, kayong lahat na nag entry o nag comment sa mga blog nya, hindi ko alam kung mag-agree kayo skin pero mas ok prin ung advice ng mga magulang db? sila ang mas veteran sa takbo ng buhay e, tayo, nsa kalahati plang ng karera. so ikaw tj, be practical.
ReplyDeletefull of sense expressed mostly with the antagonistic side..as what i understood and reflected about your stages of love mr. brusco it seems that your in the stage of anger(DABDA)..as what of the other commentors posted.my own perspective is that in love there is no stages but only on what what attitude shall you convey or eveince in dealing with love.it goes with acceptance, perseverance,collaboration and passion..going back to the topic i just want to share this quote.." Love is like a piece of artwork, even the smallest bit can be beautiful" every single chip or bit can matter..and for you mr. brusco i have a special quote for you by robert browning.."take away love, and our earth is a tomb" ok so never hate..
ReplyDeletei totally understand you..-golgi body!
ReplyDeletehmmm.. galing ah.. i rspect ur opnion dude.. n ur juz lucky u hav xperienz it for u hav learnd sumthings from tym to tym.. GOD wants us to knw everything so dat d nextym ul fall inluv agen.. u knw how 2 handle thngs now... im not against w/ d way u understand and explain how/why/where/when/what LOVE is.. ol of us deservd 2 b LOVE but u ddnt mention specificaly wat kind of LOVE u want us 2 knw.. it is so broad 2 dzcuz.. i assume it is loving sum1 ul b w/ n liv..? im not so particular w/ "DECISION PART" mejo naguguluhan ako jan.. im not sayin ur xpert 2diz but i knw u can help me sumhow ,i thnk.. derz dz 1 guy im now liking n loving unxpectdly, but d sad part hir is dat he's not redi 4 a commitment.. yet i fil he's serious in r relationship.. is der LOVE going on betwin us..? or im juz in love w/ d idea to be inlove w/ sum1 hum i unxpctedly loving now n wish he'l b myn forever.. (i hope).
ReplyDeletedz past few days.. wer now gettin mor deep serious, but how can i say wer in2 relationship if he doesnt want it 2 b oficial..? is it matter..? im sumhow shaken w/ d idea of kipin r love relationship in secrecy... for hum i can count on if sumthin myt hapen betwin us lyk probs/conflicts.. im nt sayin we cant solve it but we can never tel.. we ol us knw dat in a relationship ders stil a big wind dat wil blew us, d impt is we knw how 2 hold on n kip r love alive.. (parang kanta lng..hahaha!!!) but how..? hmmm gettin serious!!! how wud i knw if im in a relationship if he isnt declaring im he's gf, oficialy..? n he's stil sayin' to ol of his frendz he's stil single.. its not impt wer n how dd i knw... hmmm.. d'u think he's stil unsure w/ me or stil not yet redi 2 gt commited..? mejo mahirap sa part ko.. and i dnt wana fil bad 4 him.. im redi 2 w8 n wilin 2 adjuz, juz 4 d sake of my love for himm.. wel i knw sounds corny/ martyr.. pero datz my personality... i think im crazy n ridiculous, datz luv i gez..i rily luv him mor.. ive never felt dz way b4... dats y im so much concernd bout us... im stil traumatize w/ my pasts.. yoko na maulit lhat yun... i gez hav 2 w8 wat wil hapnez next.. badly nid ur help..-golgi body
hmmmnnn..... Now it's been proven that the saying "Ones you go black, you wont go back" isn't true... haha just kidding
ReplyDeleteI believe it never really was love from the start. Never really was... it's just infatuation.. maybe the time for it to develop into love isn't enough. You'll know when you truly have loved.. no explanations, you'll just know.. :D
btw, for me love doesnt have stages... it is the final stage that just keeps on going and going and going for a life time. You can give love, never expect a return. until you find someone who'll give it back ...for now give all the love that you have and have no regrets in the end. remember... Que SerA Sera :)